Magens Bay, St. Thomas. Age 6 months. 1991
It has hit me recently. The old cliche. Where did the time go? My son is graduating from college and (thankfully) has a “real” job lined up shortly after graduating. However, he will have far less free time and few vacation days going forward compared to his childhood and college days. Three months in summer, even when busy with summer jobs, internships and other activities still made it somewhat easy to plan family time. Add in the holidays and breaks and we have had occasions for vacations, staycations, family movie and game nights and family dinners. I admit I am mourning. Excited for him -but I know we will be competing with his job, girlfriend, and fraternity brothers for his prized time and later his own family will be his priority. Obviously I hope we can still have some vacations together in the future. We haven’t even made a dent in our bucket list! What about the safari we have always wanted to do? In reality it will be harder to schedule.
Holidays 1992. At the pool before a college bowl game.
Looking back over the past 22 years with him some of the most treasured memories are vacations. We took him on a Caribbean cruise at 6 months! I don’t remember a lot of details of his first year beyond what is captured in photos but I do remember that cruise! Trips to Theme Parks and National Parks, beaches and mountains, sailing and skiing, domestic and international trips, all tumble into a collage of sweet family travel memories and experiences over all of these years.
I am proud of the young man my son has become. He is smart, hard working, and has enjoyed much success but he is also curious, fun, kind and a good travel companion. (I will leave out his penchant for being punctual and not tolerant of my relaxed view of time)
Credit must be given to him first, and then to the treadmill parenting most dedicated parents do. That is, the day in and day out of caring for, and raising children. The feeding and clothing, school events, paperwork, activities, doctors appointments and homework. All the careful attention parents put into getting children from birth to independence. Travel is a break from all of that day in and day out parenting. It is what creates positive long lasting memories. Not the meatloaf Mom made last Thursday after she picked up kids from school and activities and before she helped with the spelling homework.
While on the cusp of this impending change (after all that is the point of parenting-to get them to this place!) I still worry about how much time we will have to be together and how many precious vacation days we can look forward to in the future.
From now on we will be having to work hard at having time together. Thank goodness he has two younger sisters so I do not have to go cold turkey on traveling as well as the other pleasures of parenting. I have one at home for a year and an half before college and that first stage of having an “empty nest” . Now, it’s on to plan a trip with his other sister……she graduates from college next year and I have to go through this mixture of pride and pain again.
In the meantime, congratulations on your impending graduation son. ….but when do you get your first vacation?
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Inside a huge bubble at the Exploratorium, San Francisco.
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Nantucket Fishing 2012
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Top of the leaning Tower of Pisa, 2009
Rope Swing Ghana 2012
- Inside Sagrada Familia.
Barcelona, Spain 2009
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